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1 Golden Rule and a bunch of Lemmings

One of the things that attracted me to Active Rain is the way ideas flow freely back and forth.

There is room and need for a variety of opinions on MANY subjects here. Disagreement is the fertile ground for growth. Let's face it, if we all just "Lemming-ed" our way through life, we would all without question go over that big cliff.

Quite often people hold on to their opinions as if they are GOLD. But here on Active Rain I believe that the real GOLD is the open dialogue and understanding gained from it. The real Gold can be found as each of us as individuals chooses to apply, adapt, tweak, use, alter, integrate, or reject what they have learned from what has been shared here in the rain.

Disagrement with an idea/concept/approach/individual need not be disrespectful. The end result may be that you just agree to disagree.

These 12 expressions of 1 Golden Rule reminds us that we all can have varying approaches to our faith, our professions, our lives, and our opinions... but when it comes to relating to each other, one concept rises above all others. Following this 1 Golden Rule is the one place being a Lemming actually makes sense.


PS: I created these (using Active Rain Colors) for the free use of all.

Comment balloon 35 commentsCraig Schiller • January 28 2007 08:29AM


Very nicely done Craig. The world would be a better place no doubt if all would practice these beliefs.


Posted by Jay McGillicuddy, Real Estate Broker (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty) almost 14 years ago

Good morning Craig, Very good post. I love heated debates and conflicts of opinions. It's how I learn. But always debate the topic not the person. As soon as it gets personal, you lose.

The "golden rule" has been around as long as humanity has existed. What does that tell us? 

Posted by Bryant Tutas, Selling Florida one home at a time (Tutas Towne Realty, Inc and Garden Views Realty, LLC) almost 14 years ago
It's like you are reading my mind!
Posted by Dena Stevens Coriz, Putting The Real Into Realtor Since 2004 (Rocky Mountain Realty ) almost 14 years ago
Its always refereshing to see the Golden rule promoted. Can hep to keep it in the forefront of peoples thoughts and remind them of its value. Good job.
Posted by Charles Blumenkehl (Blue Asset Management) almost 14 years ago
I feel the need to call you Grasshopper. 
Posted by Chris Griffith, Bonita Springs Listing Agent (Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL) almost 14 years ago

Hi Craig,

You’re the fellow Jay refers to as “Clown,” right? Some Clown, indeed! What a thoughtful, insightful post. I particularly like the quote from the Torah: “What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbour. This is the whole Torah; all the rest is commentary. Go and learn it.” (Emphasis mine.)

It’s a shame that so much is done by humanity in the name of religion that defies the wisdom taught by the ancients.

Posted by Boomer Jack Boardman & Carl McIntyre, the Codgers (Noted Curmudgeons) almost 14 years ago
Top "O" the Morning to ya Craig! This is perhaps one of the best posts I've read in a while. How absoultely BORING if we all shared the exact same thoughts or opinions! We can agree to disagree, but with civility and respect. One of our primary goals in our posts should be to stimulate thought and debate. Thanks, Craig!
Posted by Rich Jacobson, Your Kitsap County WA Real Estate Broker (Fathom Realty West Sound) almost 14 years ago

You came up with some religions I had never heard of.  Chicago, the center of all, must have a temple for each one.  I had to go back and check for Baha'i.  Yes, it's there.  Even Islam, the now much maligned faith is there.  "This is the whole Torah" is reflected in Jesus answer to the Pharisees about the great commandment.  His first answer was "love the Lord God" and the second is like unto the first: "Love your neighbor as yourself".  When we all accomplish this commandment from each of our respective faiths, the world will be a better place.

Now, what program do you use to create the buttons?

Posted by Bonnie Erickson (Tangletown Realty) almost 14 years ago
I follow the Golden Rule the best I can.  Now if I could only get my two TEENAGE GIRLS to follow the RULE too..UGH!!! ;)
Posted by Janice Sutton, Home Stager - Temecula Murrieta (1st Stage Property Transformations ) almost 14 years ago

Gee..... could one of the guidelines that Jesus talked about be THAT important??? Just as Bonnie stated... He said they were the MOST important things to do.....


Wow.... whoda thought?????  Maybe He had something there, hmm??       =-D


BTW, Craig... your application is still open to join us at C&RE ........  ;-D

Drop me an e-mail ok?

Posted by Alexander Harb, Dallas, Texas Real Estate Investing (Knights Investing) almost 14 years ago

Fantastic point indeed, one I try best to live by.  Oddly, why is this so hard for some to remember when it is such a simple message?

Posted by Tina Parker, CNE, REDM, SRES, CSP Home Staging REALTOR, Halifax (Keller Williams Select Realty) almost 14 years ago
Thank you for addressing this point so beautifully and in a way that all can understand and relate to.  Emotions can be such a handicap at times...we can get caught up so easily and lose our cool.  Sometimes it's best to wait a day or so before responding to a heated debate.  That way we lose that 'edge' of anger and are more in control of the words that we choose and the way that we address the subject.
Posted by Val Allocco, HSE; ASHSR - Home Stager, for Manhattan, Brooklyn & Long Island (Staged 2 Sell New York & Long Island) almost 14 years ago

Jay: How true. I know I need to be reminded OFTEN too.  I figured if I could use a refresher course. So could others.

Bryant: I like "the topic not the person" THAT keeps it quite clear what we are doing here.

Dena:I have been taking Carnac classes from Linda Davis.

Charles: TLW did her own spin on this awhile back. I just thought THIS week it would be good to hear it again. I wish once it was said we would get it. But that seems not to be the case. So posting this message again surely won't hurt.

Chris:OK... YOU know about KUNG FU? You do NOT look that old!

Medford: How often I sit in church (full of the spirit) and pray that I take that feeling with me into my life during the course of a week. It is hard at times for sure. Thank God we do have this wisdom... when we need it, remember it, and apply it.

Rich: I am sorry I just can't agree with you. (Nudge Nudge Wink Wink :-) )

Bonnie:Believe it our not I do MOST of my creative graphic design in MS Word.  Then I convert it into a jpg. (I make MS Word do things that would make Microsoft's developers head spin.) Oh and I found most of the little symbols in Microsofts image library! 

Janice: Just the fact that you are working on it is a great example for your daughters to see.

Alexander: That is the cool thing about pure TRUTH, it just IS. It IS no matter who says it, where they say it, or when it is said. AND it needs not be owned or assigned it lives because it IS.

Tina: Simple yet hard... God ain't that the truth.

Val: We need to keep this message in front us Stagers as we move this industry forward. Being it is so young... there will be and needs to be much dialogue. We MUST remain sane.

Thanks all.. Me

Posted by Craig Schiller almost 14 years ago

Uh, I have 19 year old twins. I'm a geezer!

Good thing I got a "fig" at this age I need more fiber.

Posted by Chris Griffith, Bonita Springs Listing Agent (Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL) almost 14 years ago
Craig, what I learned from this post was in all religions - Treat others like you want to be treated.  We all want love, respect and honesty!  I think that is all we can ask for.  I hope the dark clouds subside and PEACE will reign supreme in the RAIN!
Posted by Marci Toliver, Anderson SC, Spartanburg,Greenville SC, Home Staging (438-4642) almost 14 years ago

Thanks again, Craig for another wonderful post that creates thought and dialogue about important, fundamental things.

...and I love the statement that Bryant made also "But always debate the topic not the person"...excellent advice to protect other people's feelings and dignity.

...and also Val's advice about waiting to respond if we are angry. When you write in anger, it does it's damage over and over again, since its hurtfulness is preserved so explicity...and when you do it on a public forum such as this, that affect is multiplied.

Craig, you have an amazing heart, and I'm (we're) very thankful that you are such a big part of AR. We need you!

Posted by Pamela Lachance (AKKiRA Realty Inc. Real Estate Brokerage) almost 14 years ago
Craig, as always, we can count on you to provide guidance on the really important things in life.
Posted by Elaine Reese, REALTOR® in central Ohio (Real Living HER, Powell Ohio) over 13 years ago
I have always told my kids, "It costs absolutely nothing to give someone respect, courtesy and a smile".
Posted by Chris Griffith, Bonita Springs Listing Agent (Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL) over 13 years ago
I'm not sure how I missed this, but thankfully the week in review came out today! Nice job on the graphics. Even better job on the writing. Thank you. Thank you, very much.
Posted by Jeff Turner (RealSatisfied) over 13 years ago
This is cool!  FC, now you are gonna have me googling Jainism, which is the one I have not heard of!  Very neat.
Posted by Carole Cohen, Realtor, ePRO (Howard Hanna Cleveland City Office) over 13 years ago
I can't believe I had missed this - loved.....better yet LOVED the 12 expressions of THE GOLDEN RULE!  You Rock Craig...but you already know that......WHO LOVES YOU BABY?
Posted by Rick & Ines - Miami Beach Real Estate (Majestic Properties) over 13 years ago


Thanks for the post. There's joy in the rain!

Posted by William Collins, Property and Asset Management (ERA Queen City Realty) over 13 years ago

Craig--Thank you for your post.

I liked what Rich Jacobson had to say (We can agree to disagree...posts should be to stimulate thought and debate).  Learning comes when we are challenged to examine our own beliefs.

Posted by Jacqueline McCroy Elbert (RE/MAX Realty Suburban) over 13 years ago

What a beautiful post Craig, I consider myslelf duly reprimanded ;) 

Edited to add***  I don't want anyone to think that the above comment had anything to do with any of the major drama last week.  This was just in reference to a sarcastic comment I made jokingly (as is my nature for those who know me) on another stager's blog and was not taken kindly.  I regret that it is often hard to guage the flavor of someone's remark over this medium.

I wish all these religions could practice the tolerance and fair treatment they preach...

Posted by Jessica Hughes (Ambiance Staging) over 13 years ago

Benito Juarez one of the best Mexican presidents....(actually, maybe the only good one ever) once said "Among individuals, as among nations, respect for the rights of others is peace."

My rendition of this wise saying is: "Among individuals, as among nations, the respect for the right of others is the preservation of your teeth"

MANY MANY MANY thanks Craig!

Posted by Blanca Cholewczynski, XCO (U) over 13 years ago
Now THERE is a site for sore eyes!....Hiya Blanca!
Posted by Rich Jacobson, Your Kitsap County WA Real Estate Broker (Fathom Realty West Sound) over 13 years ago


Your post is Golden as always,



Posted by Ginger S, Wilmington NC Real Estate & Relocation~ (Wilkinson & Associates, Wilmington NC) over 13 years ago
Hi Craig.. loved the graphics. a basic, simple yet very solid way to live.  Seeing everything in the eye's of others perspective is fundamental.     'nuff respect to you sir.  -the other me
Posted by Nick M., Realtor-Appraiser in West Palm-South Florida Real Estate Appraiser (Certified Residential Appraiser- West Palm Beach Real Estate) over 13 years ago
LIke I said, Craig. You're just the best. Inspiringly simple.  The message,not you!
Posted by Pat Ebrahimi over 13 years ago

This is an awsome post.  I wish the faiths would look at this and quit shooting and bombing each other which totaly goes against this golden rule.

Orville McCallister

Posted by Orville Ivor McCallister (Keller Williams Realty La Mesa) over 13 years ago
Nice work, Craig.  I hope they print out well so I can use them on the bulletin board
Posted by Brian Brady, 858-777-9751 (San Diego VA Home Loans/858-777-9751) over 13 years ago


Welcome to Fraiche Aire.  Thanks for posting this extraordinary piece.  It demonstrates that goodness and truth is available to all of us if we will choose to look for it....& not just within the narrow confines of our particular part of the human experience.  I look forward to reading more of your work.


Posted by Lola Audu, Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI ~Welcome Home! (Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate) over 13 years ago

WOW - I hadn't seen this post until today ~ I don't know how I could have missed it!!!! (BTW - I'm a Baha'i so I was STUNNED just to see us mentioned - TY!)

Posted by Connie Tebyani, Platinum Home Staging, Los Angeles and Ventura County (Platinum Home Staging, Inc. : RESA-Pro) over 12 years ago

Craig:  Living life in an honorable way just is not all that complicated.  Your posts shares the many ways that this very simple code is the way to world harmony.  Thanks so much for sharing.

Posted by Karen Anne Stone, Fort Worth Real Estate (New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County) over 12 years ago

It's so great that good posts like this pop up again for those of us who were not here at the time it was first posted!

This is a timeless truth, Craig.  Thank you for pointing out our common thread, the meaning of true humanity.

Posted by Elaine Hanson, REALTOR - Topanga, CA Real Estate Agent (Compass) over 12 years ago